Your heart sweats…your teeth grind: How to beat presentation jitters
Wednesday, May 5th, 2010Yesterday afternoon, as I listened to Connie Miller of Pivotal Presentations describe the visceral, physical and sheer animal angst associated with public speaking, I couldn’t help but feel that Robert Palmer was really on to something. Your throat is tight, you can’t breathe, you might as well face it: you’ve got stage fright. As Connie described to our workshop participants, it’s not at all uncommon to experience these symptoms and more when you face a crowd that, on some primal level, you fear will attack you. The good news is that unlike Palmer’s love addicts, you can be saved. Below please find a few take-aways from Connie’s session (no substitute for her personal coaching and some highly interactive exercises she included in the workshop, but here goes).
1) Breathe. Yep, turns out you need oxygen for brain function, and to project your voice. DO try this at home, kids: place on hand on your sternum, the other on your diaphragm (stomach region, for the non-biologists in the crowd). As you breathe in, your belly (not your chest) should actually expand. This opens and elongates the air column, and is an incredibly powerful tool. Next, as you exhale, count to seven out loud. When we get nervous we tend to take quick, shallow breaths…your voice can crack, sound shrill, or just fade away. Make sure your breaths are deep enough so that you can sustain this counting exercise and even punctuate the number 7. Land on it with some authority. Go ahead, try it. I’ll wait.
2) Personalize. Get past that fear that a pack of bloodthirsty animals is ready to pounce by comfortably resting your eyes on a few individuals in the crowd. We’re not talking about darting, furtive glances….you’ll look paranoid and actually make your audience nervous, too. And it’s not about a staring constantly at the one smiling face in the crowd (see how long they stay smiling– ick). Try focusing on one individual at a time, for long enough to complete a sentence (or two). The goal is to shift your gaze as you move onto the next thought.
3) Be clear and compelling. No secret that it’s important to say something meaningful, and to convey confidence in your convictions.
- Don’t do that Lloyd Dobler “nervous talking thing,” but know that it’s a basic human (or at least American) instinct to fill that uncomfortable silence with noise. Take a quiet moment when you get on stage, plant your feet shoulder width apart–yes, breathe–size up the room, and begin.
- Tell a story, involve the crowd, and use your body language to suggest that the very physical space in which you’re standing is where this riveting story occurred.
- When you answer questions, if you don’t know, don’t BS, say you don’t know. If you need a moment to collect your thoughts, it’s a good practice to repeat/rephrase the question (could actually be a benefit to the cheap seats in the back row who didn’t hear it the first time). Many nervous presenters can be taken aback by questions, and literally take a step back….try leaning into questions from the audience and show you’re listening intently.
- Avoid the trap of text-heavy slides. The human eye won’t necessarily read top to bottom, left to right, so you may soon find yourself very disconnected from your audience. If you have to have bullet points, she suggests bringing them in one at a time. And by all means, make them pretty (she points out we are animals after all, and drawn to color. I think I may have been a fish in a prior life– I like shiny).
As the workshop wound down and Connie took brave souls from the group to practice what she’d preached, Sean Flynn commented “This is just like the advice I get on my golf swing. If I work on one tip, I forget all the others.” Fair point and to be expected! Through repetition you’ll integrate one piece at a time.
And now for a little color commentary from the author:
1) Get over yourself. I’m not suggesting have some kind of out-of-body experience while public speaking, quite the opposite: you need to be incredibly present. The point is that no one’s speeches are ever perfect– sometimes you, say, hurl a remote clicker into a guest’s bagel and schmear at Breakfast Buzz, for example– so don’t let the small stuff phase you. Roll with it, laugh it off, and likely no one will remember those little flubs (except the woman in the second row who got a bit more than she bargained for with that bagel). In addition to Connie’s tips, you’ll find your own way to get over this kind of anxiety. My path was dance (other people’s choreography) and karaoke (other people’s songs)… as I was getting past my own teen (and, thirty-something) angst, I found it easier to do so by taking on some other persona and getting used to performing. However, borrowing words and movements from others isn’t really sustainable in public speaking…as you need to:
2) Find yourself. Authenticity is a big deal. Be sensitive to audience (knowing your audience is the golden rule for any performer), and avoid being overly technical or jargon-y when speaking to a broader group. Do your best to speak in their vernacular. That said, use your voice, your vocabulary, your movement, to its best advantage. It’s great to have role models and mentors– but take what you like and what works for you, and make it your own.
3) Be yourself. To humanize what can either be an impersonal or brutally animalistic experience, don’t stop at finding those individuals in the audience, bring yourself into the mix. It’s much easier to connect when you’re sharing your own, flawed humanity. If your instinct is to smile, do it. Laughter can work too (but try to stop short of giggling or the crazy-making Joker’s cackle).
Whether you take any of this advice to prepare for the Oscar’s, dinner with the in-laws, an investor showcase or industry event, hope to see you soon. And I’ll buy a drink for anyone who rocks out Robert Palmer at the next techkaraoke (as we pour one out and honor that two-hit wonder’s memory). Much love.



